They are testing you because you have demonstrated it. Respect is a serious issue for you, you are prepared to protect yourself from disrespect. Hence, you are seeing disrespect where there may be nothing but friendly teasing. You are simply seeing what you are obsessed with. Stop focusing on disrespect, let go of the need to be respected, forget it, it doesn’t matter. Forgive them, respect is not what life is about, it’s about love, not respect. If you do that, you will see that people have miraculously stopped testing you. You’ll see.