It means that they have not accepted that the way life is for them now is not their fault. They had a narcissistic mother, sure, but they didn’t ask for her to be that way. None of that was of their choosing. It was just what it was. If someone else was born into their circumstance, it would be the same for them. Accepting it is the highest form of self-compassion and self-love.

Now, when you truly understand what it means and stop “blaming yourself for being born”, how can you blame your narcissistic mother? It was not her fault also. She didn’t choose to be born into her circumstance, to her parents, and whatever happened in her life that led her to her narcissism, she didn’t choose it either.

When your forgiveness of yourself is complete, your forgiveness of others becomes complete also.