Absolutely not! How can you learn to love yourself infinitely and unconditionally if you reject yourself the basic pleasures of life such as sex? Never reject yourself anything.

Sex is beautiful, sex is wonderful, sex is love. In sex, you can learn to let go. In sex, you can learn how to love another, be close to another, be intimate with another. Sex can be spiritual, cathartic. Orgasm is almost an altered state of consciousness haha. Sex, when done well, can bring tears to your eyes. It can touch you deeply, it can touch your very soul. You can open up both to your love and to your nastiness in sex, both to your gentleness and to your roughness, and accept all of it. This is wonderful.

So have all the sex you want! The more the better! Just remember that sex is love. Good sex is about intimacy, about knowing each other, loving each other, learning each other, accepting each other without judgment and becoming each other. Dissolve into each other in sex, go into it with abandon, learn to let go, and allow another to let go completely in sex, and never judge them for it.

There’s a reason sex is uncomfortable to talk about for most people. Sex is the topic of the greatest number of insecurities, dysfunctions and inhibitions for an average person. In enlightenment, no more inhibitions and insecurities are possible, so how can one reach it if one remains insecure in such a natural, biological and raw expression of the body as sex? If you want to fulfill your fantasies, do so! Open up to your fantasies and allow your partner to open up about their fantasies, too! There’s no such thing as sexual perversion, as long as it’s consensual. You don’t have to agree to them, if you don’t want to, but never judge your partner for their sexual fantasies.

Yes, it is true that the role of sex changes significantly in enlightenment. But that’s simply due to the fact that sex stops being cathartic and relaxing because enlightenment is the ultimate catharsis, after which one is permanently relaxed. But before enlightenment, the attraction to sex is natural, because it helps you get out of your mind and into your body and heart.