No. The emotional experience of intimacy/bonding/closeness to another person comes from the relief of being able to open up and reveal yourself more completely than you usually do. Symmetrically, the other person opens up and reveals themselves to you on an unusual level, and that creates the feeling of trust and intimacy. It’s like diving into each other’s secrets together, it’s exciting, “forbidden” and may be emotionally uncomfortable, because there might be something there which you don’t like to see (or reveal). But once the discomfort is stepped over, the bond is stronger and the trust is stronger. That’s what intimacy is - it is based on honesty and non-judgment which is why true intimacy is never easy.

An enlightened person is completely open and honest with himself, meaning that there is nothing he hides from himself about himself, so there is nothing which can potentially be uncomfortable for him to reveal to others. Symmetrically, there is nothing that others may reveal to him which would make him feel uncomfortable, for exactly the same reason.

You could also say that an enlightened person is in absolute intimacy with himself and it means he is in absolute intimacy with everybody already. When the intimacy is absolute, there is no space for a feeling of a greater closeness or bonding, emotionally speaking. If one person is enlightened and another is not, the other person may go through bonding, yes, but the enlightened person is “bonded” to them already in the ultimate sense. It’s just a question of how fast they are comfortable revealing but he’s ready for everything from the start. So the bonding is one-sided, which is why it’s very hard to live with an enlightened person. One goes through the risk and potential pain of opening up themselves and accepting of him to build intimacy, but he is already there, he’s not on this journey with you, and it’s maddening. The deeper you go psychologically, the harder it gets. It’s like an infinite depth, and the deeper you dive into him, the deeper you dive into yourself which is always uncomfortable. And he seems perfectly comfortable with all that, so the illusion is that he brings you pain, or that he’s emotionally closed up, because it’s hard for you but not for him. It’s very hard to be living with an enlightened person and not start falling into him, because the ego has nothing to stand on, nowhere to hide. One can feel very naked. The depth of intimacy you can build with him can be freigtening, and a constant reminder that you’re not as intimate with yourself as you think you are.

So the bonding is one-sided, yes. The more one is accepting of him, the more one becomes accepting of oneself and vice versa. From the side of the enlightened person, yes, it is unfortunate to lose a person who is already somewhat accepting of you, because it means there’s less pretending to do, less walking on eggshells not to hurt their feelings (even if you are already infinitely accepting of them, you still have to do it - for them). There’s also all kinds of stuff you used to do together. So yes, it can be unfortunate and no one wants that. You can call that bonding, but it’s not the emotional/psychological bonding which people usually refer to.