I can point out several things.

Dishonesty. Not with other people, one cannot always be completely honest with other people, not in our society. But with yourself.

Assigning responsibility for your emotions to other people and blaming them for how you feel. You are the only one responsible for how you feel. Don’t avoid it, embrace it, allow it.

Inability to love, being afraid to fall in love because when we fall in love, we lose control. Don’t be afraid to lose control.

Fear of future emotional pain and suffering. When you are afraid to do something you want because it might make you feel unpleasant emotions in the future, you are missing out on life. Live to have no regrets.

Not living your life fully, knowing that this is your only life, looking forward to reincarnation or God as your savior. This is a fantasy.

Forbidding yourself the pleasures of life such as sex, dancing, hugs and kisses or having a good rest. Never reject yourself anything.

Living for the future, not for today. Doing things you don’t want to do because you want a better life in the future, but not now. In the future, it will also be now.